The One who can sympathize with our weaknesses “gets it” (Hebrews 4:15-16). He was a man of sorrows, acquainted with grief (Isaiah 53:3). And He entered our world as one of us. We are called to be like Him. We are to care enough to enter the world of our friends. To lay down our lives for those we love. And if you are a coach or leader in any capacity, lay down your life so that you “get” those you serve (John 15:13).
Jesus, who loves us with everlasting love, entered our world asking good questions. Try reading one of the gospels and keeping a tally of Jesus’ questions. You will learn a lot about love and service.
When was the last time you really entered someones world with questions that go deep? By having the courage to do this you may find that rather than protecting themselves, they open up to you. By opening up to you they hear God. They begin to experience His healing to their situations in a special, specific, and personal way and receive His comfort through you.
Everyone needs someone who loves him or her enough to ask the deep questions of life. 1 Corinthians 13 says that if we don’t have love we are nothing more that a clanging cymbal or a noisy gong. To ask deep questions without love can feel intrusive, even offensive. This is why coaching or shepherding the heart is so easy for us to miss. We don’t want to offend. We try to coach or shepherd the behavior instead. But this is how Jesus did it and does it; heart first – behavior second.
As a leader, coach, friend, parent, supervisor etc. this is our part:
- Pray, ask God to fill you with His love for others.
- Enter their world with listening love.
- Shepherd their hearts, not their behavior in love
- Watch Him work.
I know that life is a journey very much like a roller coaster ride. It is up and down, fast and slow, scary and fun all at the same time. It is very common to lose direction, want to change direction, or just need a little help moving forward in the right direction. Sometimes all that is needed is a map and someone to help you read it. If you lead others or are going through a life transition, or both I would love to come along side you in your journey and enter your world with great commandment love.